A: I pull from a mix of what’s worked in my personal experience as well as from my coaching, mindfulness, and embodiment training backgrounds. 

BFI uses a combination of shadow work, inner child work, mindfulness and somatic processing techniques as taught under the lineage of Stefi Preiss, Christian Meyer and Eli Jaxon-Bear. I draw from Nonviolent Communication education by Marshall Rosenburg, polarity concepts inspired by David Deida, John Wineland, and Madelyn Moon, and the Change Triangle by Hilary Jacobs Hendel. Other teachers I’ve been inspired by: Teal Swan, Eckhart Tolle, Sheryl Paul, Chelsea Horton, Peter Levine, and Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk.

A: The work is, first and foremost, for you. A lot of this work is owning your shadow and therefore shifting how YOU show up, and evoking changes in your partner without their conscious knowing. If you are single, this work will help you clear out gunk and prepare you for your next relationship. It will also give you tools that will help you make decisions in dating. I believe everyone needs to know this information — in relationship or not.

Absolutely. This program is open to everyone.

A: No.

A: I can’t guarantee that the program is or isn’t for you. There is always a risk you will not like the program. If the message on this page resonates with you, please know the course/program is more of the same. The worst thing that happens is you’re out $197 bucks. In the best case scenario, you dislodge that stuck feeling holding you back from opening your heart, and move on with your life and build something.

A: I hear the desire for certainty around this question, and to be honest, I don’t know for sure. In general, if you’ve got a partner that’s devoted to you, ready to commit and build a life with you, and can teach you about love, I believe it’s a partnership worth exploring as these patterns of fears of intimacy will show up no matter where you go. That said, I will point you to another question: what if you couldn’t do this wrong? What if this work will benefit you either way?

A: This is the number one fear people have — even above making an investment that’s a bust. Although breakups do happen, I’ve never heard once that they broke up because of the program — only that they trusted their decisions more and loved their partners more whether or not they stayed with them. That’s because there is no terrible side of you with some terrible truth or verdict. Just very activated parts of you acting out to get your attention. When you haven’t experienced a level of detachment from your thoughts before and accessed the realm of Self, every thought feels supremely true and you’re unable to trust otherwise. This work isn’t about forcing anything or discovering some terrible truth. I know it’s probably hard to believe, because the thoughts are so scary and convincing. But the healing work is actually so profound and beautiful, and it can even be fun! No matter what happens, you will be ok and ease is possible regardless of your external circumstances.

A: You get access to the newer self-study course for free (this one). The old BFI is now off the market. If you have a hard time accessing it, please email my team at support@anxiouslovecoach.com.