Evoke His Devotion

I will be taking new clients in February of 2024

Nat’s 4-month 1:1 catalyst to inspire your partner’s presence, service, and reverence… by revving up your aliveness, trust, and connection to the divine

“When you see a guy reach for the stars in the sky, you can bet he’s doin’ it for some doll.”

- Frank Sinatra

What if your relationship was so deeply rewarding, there was no room for having one foot out the door?

How would it feel to have your partner calling you beautiful, showering you with compliments, appreciation, and gifts?

What if you no longer felt the need to nag, control, or “get” your man to change?

I remember the first time I decided to lean back and relax, rather than poke my husband, while bored and exhausted on a red-eye flight to Australia.

I wanted a distraction; in this case, affection.

My legs were cramped by the window seat, and I’d been awkwardly nestled into a corner with a book for 6 hours. We were still 5 hours from our destination.

I had a good man. If I asked, he’d have given it; that wasn’t an issue. But for some reason, in my exhausted logic, it would have been more meaningful if he reached out to me instead.

The book I was reading that night was written by a coach named Laura Doyle. In her book, she’d suggested that the way to get a man’s attention without nagging was to relax and tune into her own pleasure. I relaxed my shoulders, and decided to practice releasing my attachment to my husband giving me attention in that moment. I soaked in the book, cozied up a bit with my blanket and pillow, sipped my tea, and forgot about my husband briefly.

2 minutes later, my husband, who was also exhausted, pulled out his AirPods, put his hand on my knee, and asked:

“How are you feeling? Can I get you anything? Water?”

I just about fell out of my chair.

Coincidence? Maybe. But the more I practiced this strategy in the following years, the more I began to notice this happen over and over… and I noticed, in hindsight, that I was communicating very powerful subtle messages to my husband that evoked his devotion towards me without either of us knowing.

Since then, I’ve become obsessed with tinkering with this tool in my marriage— using self-care and surrender as a tool to getting my deepest desires met in my relationship. 

This program is for the woman who has done enough work to have both feet in, and isn’t obsessing over the “rightness” of the relationship anymore, but is ready to take her relationship from good enough to great.

Full disclosure— what I’m about to suggest to you is not a guarantee your man will drop to his knees and worship the very earth you walk on and the air you breathe.

But if he has it in him to do so, you’ve got to make sure you’re not actively standing in the way.

I know that sounds crazy— to suggest there might be a part of you that resists being cherished to the degree that you say that you want. 

This part may be terrified of the deep surrender, ego death and vulnerability that this type of dynamic would request of you…

For the longest time, I believed my then-boyfriend, now-husband Preston, was at the root of all our relationship troubles.

When I first read Nonviolent Communication and dove head-on into mindfulness and spirituality, I devoured material so rapidly that I was scared he was falling behind and I’d either be surrendering to a relationship of perpetual loneliness, or have to break up.

I felt so frustrated that he wasn’t meeting me halfway: he spent late evenings gaming, kisses lacked presence and intention, and he wore crocs, cargo pants, and baggy t-shirts out to dinner.

I shared what I was learning, attempting to inspire him to treat me with more presence, intention, and fascination…

And yet the more I tried to lecture him about his lack of presence, the more his eyes glazed over… and while he responded with politeness in the moment, I subconsciously felt a resignation in his body language and nothing really changed.

I chalked a lot of my frustration up to relationship anxiety, which was part of the problem, but there also were genuine areas in our relationship that were so dissatisfying. I began to accept that this is just how things were in a long-term partnership and that one needed to learn to tolerate them. Which, to be fair, was a valuable lesson for me to learn at that time.

But some part of me always protested the idea… I also wanted to know what aspects of our romance WERE within my control to change!

I had read a handful of polarity books that suggested to stop controlling your man… and I balked at the idea for years.

After all, if I wasn’t actively telling him what he needed to do differently, how on earth was he going to know what needed to be changed?

It turns out, he couldn’t hear the voice of his own conscience when he was so busy defending himself from my onslaught of subtle criticisms…

Recently, my husband left our apartment key at a restaurant. Every part of me wanted to say, “Ugh! You ought to be more careful and pay attention! What if they closed and we had no way to get home?!”

But I bit my tongue instead.

After we scrambled back and retrieved our key successfully, on our way down the escalator, something interesting happened.

He said, “Hey, thanks for not criticizing me about that. I’m sorry for leaving my key at the restaurant.” And it never happened again.

Relinquishing control over my partner has been SO difficult over the last couple years, even after overcoming relationship anxiety.

But the gradual results spoke for themselves…

My husband started to develop self-discipline.

He started to self-correct, in moments when I wanted to step in.

He started apologizing when he said something hurtful — right away.

And me? Well, I didn’t know what to do with myself when I wasn’t focused on him!

Lots of space and energy opened up inside me— space that used to be focused on how my partner acted in public and dressed and pursued his career.

And, as it turned out, I had zero clue about what I actually enjoyed.

I started to practice making more friends, engaging in self-pleasure practices, dancing, and singing in the shower.

Lo and behold, the more interestING I became, the more interestED my man became.

I continued to be surprised— years into this practice of mine, my husband had a spiritual awakening that blew my socks (and panties!!) off.

But do be warned. If you do what I share with you here— you might just start no longer needing him to worship you, to intimately remember the goddess that you are. You may want his reverence and devotion, but you won’t need it to feel worthy. And he will feel that difference…

The irony is this is the exact type of energy that often gets him to start paying attention to how he speaks, dresses, and behaves around you…

Taking out the trash and keeping the toilet seat down becomes HIS bare minimum for the type of man he desires to be in your presence.

His own conscience replaces any of your previous nagging, begging, reminding… 

And if he is not ready for this… he will likely weed himself out.

How do you change your partner and make them think the change came from within themselves?

This is the art of evoking — to call forth with seduction and inspiration, not force.

I created this program for those that have for the most part, overcome relationship anxiety — and would like to take their relationship from healthy and stable, to full of aliveness, confidence and deep satisfaction— using universal polarity (yin-yang) principles, communication tools, embodiment and feminine vitality practices.

Why work with me?

The Package

This 4-month capsule includes

• 8 x 90-minute sessions over 4 months These sessions combine coaching + embodiment/ meditations to increase self-awareness, as well as ancient Taoist women’s vitality and pleasure practices such as breast massage, and jade egg/wand pleasure/de-armoring practices

• **Extra: WhatsApp support to keep Natalie in your back pocket

The Approach

 These sessions combine deep meditative embodiment work, as well as coaching through your blocks to intimacy so that you can communicate with ease, find common ground with your partner, and learn to trust your decisions in your relationship.

I will also be sharing ancient Tao feminine vitality/sensuality practices such as breast massage, jade egg and wand practices to activate healthy movement of Qi (or “life force” according to Chinese medicine or “prana” in ancient yogic practices) — this is absolutely essential for being an alive, magnetic woman in partnership.

Investment

• Sessions only - $3600 PIF or 3 x monthly payments of $1250

• Sessions + WhatsApp support - $4500 PIF or 3 x monthly payments of $1600
  
  
  

How to move forward

To move forward, please request a free 30 min consultation below by selecting a tentative date and filling out the intake form. The appointment stands unless, after reviewing it, I can see this won’t be a good fit, in which case I will cancel the appointment and send you some resources or a more appropriate offering. In the call, I will go over your personal history, answer any questions you have… and explore the beautiful possibilities of working together.

BEFORE YOU APPLY:

If you’re ready to shift the dynamics inside yourself and within your partnership, to examine your relationship and polarity on a deeper level that goes far beyond the surface, and discover your deepest wisdom THROUGH partnership— apply to work with me!

Please note this is for serious inquiries only.

Due to the high volume of inquiries I receive and our limited time and energy, I need to be very selective about which applications we accept in order to provide the highest quality of service.

If, in examining your application, it seems that this might not be a perfect fit at this moment, my team will send you an email with free resources instead of proceeding with the assessment call. You’ll always be  welcome to re-apply if/when circumstances change.

If your application is accepted, we will proceed with the scheduled assessment call where you will meet with me via Zoom.

Please mark this session in your calendar. I block off this time for you at the expense of other potential candidates in order to offer you professional and personalized expertise-- if you skip the call without giving me a heads up to reschedule/cancel, I take a hit to my business, a client loses out on your slot, and I’m left potentially an hour of wait time until my next call. Please show up or notify me if you can’t make it.

Testimonials

Working with Natalie has been one of the most impactful things in my entire year. Her energy is really angelic, funny and sooo loving at the same time! I felt so incredibly seen by her and she is one of the only coaches I know who doesn't place this hierarchy into the relationship - I felt like she really held me in my power and that meant so much! My relationship has DRASTICALLY shifted thanks to this work with Nat! I feel way closer to my partner and like we have the tools to move through the literally insane and mind boggling triggers we have faced for the last many years. I am eternally grateful and I know there will always be ups and downs, but the tools will last a life time ❤️.

Working with Natalie has truly transformed my relationship and so much more — I feel like a new person.

Dread used to be my daily experience. I’d toss and turn at night beside my beautiful partner from the fear that I was making the wrong choice by being with him. I was acting in ways that were hurting my partner. In fact, it impacted our 2 year partnership so much that he wanted to break up with me.

I was desperate for a solution because I knew in my heart I couldn’t let him go. Safe to say, four months in one-on-one coaching with Natalie gave me the tools and space to process my anxieties, and gain the clarity that I was acting from a wounded place. Nat is so gifted at making you feel safe, and this was essential in helping me shed my fears about my partner.

It’s been nearly a year since I first reached out to her, and I’ve never felt so in love and assured that I’m with the perfect man. Our sex life is out of this world, our communication is improving, and if he proposed tomorrow I’d say yes.

If you’re uncertain about taking the leap to work with Natalie, I totally get it. It’s a big commitment to do this work. But I encourage you to still reach out, because this work can be utterly life-changing.

Working with Natalie was one of the best investments I've ever made in my life. Words cannot describe how thankful I am for randomly finding her during the lowest moments in my relationship. Unaware of the term, relationship anxiety, I was constantly doubting my loving partner and for months, had been waking up in the middle of night drenched in sweat. When I read Natalie's website, I saw, for the first time, words that described me and my relationship perfectly and was immediately overcome with relief. I thought - if others including Natalie had this problem (and there's a 3 month course that solves everything), I'm good right? Phew, that means I'm saved, just like how I go to a doctor if I'm sick...

But I was wrong - dead wrong. This was actually deep, deep, deep emotional work that only I could uniquely do. Natalie was not my doctor, but my coach. While relief is the first (and very important) step, expect the actual work to be a rollercoaster. In my 9 months with Natalie, there were great days filled with love, gratitude, and optimism. But there were dark days of despair when I wanted to give up completely. There are so many things about Natalie that I admire and respect, but if I had to boil it down to one, it's that through this rollercoaster of a journey (and it can get ugly), she always showed up for the highs but more importantly the lows. I consider myself truly blessed to have met and worked with Natalie.

I'll admit - relationship anxiety hasn't completely disappeared from my life. However, I've learned that relationship anxiety is not a symptom of being in the wrong relationship, but something deeper within myself around creative fulfillment & self-worth. And that's what I'm currently working on.

Coaching with Natalie has been such a gift! I have been following Natalie on social media and listening to her podcast for several years now and throughout that time, have desired to work with her one on one. I finally took the plunge, and I am so glad that I did! I have had relationship anxiety since I was 15-years-old and noticed it coming up with my current partner, who I desire to stay in a relationship with. Natalie taught me how to truly start to process my emotions. I realized that my relationship anxiety has very little to do with my relationship and everything to do with my inner world and the unprocessed emotions from traumas that I had not yet worked through.

If you’re looking for something easy or a “quick fix” – Natalie isn’t your girl. You’re going to do work and you’re going to cry and grieve and scream and feel on a level that you didn’t realize was possible. But if you are willing to do the hard work and make something beautiful out of the darkness inside you, it’s a journey more than worth embarking on. I still have moments of relationship anxiety, but I have noticed that I’m able to work through my anxiety much faster now. I am just now beginning to see a deep peace growing inside me that wasn’t there before, and it’s a beautiful feeling.

Natalie also taught me how to change how I relate to my partner in a way that has created a lot of fun dynamics in our relationship. I made some shifts and started to notice more attentiveness, apologies, affection, and adoration. Those things were already there in my relationship before I began coaching with Natalie, but making the shifts that she suggested has heightened all the wonderful parts of my relationship in noticeable ways.

I cannot recommend Natalie enough. She is a beautiful soul who cares deeply about her clients. She has a deep inner wisdom that goes beyond her age. It has been an honor to do this inner work with her and I will always cherish the time that I spent with Natalie.

"It took me a while to get the courage to sign up for Natalie’s coaching course after literal months of stalking her tik-toks and thinking to myself, “Wow, I wish I could work with someone like that!” I was drawn to her aliveness and willingness to call out truths that everyone else seems to avoid. I finally met with her and within a few minutes she had me feeling more seen, understood, and accepted than YEARS of traditional therapy. As a therapist, myself, I was craving a more radical, deep exploration of my relationship and fears. My 6 months with Natalie delivered just that; I was able to access emotions I thought I would never have and express them in an uninhibited, beautiful way. She led me to meet parts of myself that I had abandoned and rejected; in doing that, I feel so much more confident in my ability to trust myself and soothe myself when the inevitable anxious feelings come up. I find that with talk therapy and traditional self-work, there is a lot of ‘thinking & analyzing’ involved; with Natalie, I was able to soften and access my body and emotions in a much more intuitive, primal way. I didn't end the 6 months with ‘certainty’ about my partner or relationship - I’m still uncertain at times. I just no longer believe that finding out the answer is my only way to peace; I have more trust that I will evolve and adjust to my life and relationships as needed. Ultimately, relationship ambivalence can feel soul-crushing, shameful, and lonely; Natalie fully validated and understood those feelings, while she also made me laugh and find lightness within it all. If you are lucky enough to work with Natalie, go into it with your full heart and I can promise you won’t feel judged even for a second. "

Lindsey W

Working with Natalie has been such a journey. What she offers is wisdom, knowledge, the ability to hold space, grace, humanness, humor, grounded-ness but also so much depth. She keeps it real, while also holding your hand through the journey the 1:1 sessions take you through. She has made me feel seen and loved, even through a screen and even starting as just strangers. I cherished every session and am so grateful for her support and presence. She is doing exactly what she should be doing and that shines bright. She is filled to the brim with so much knowledge and wisdom that exudes out of her. She challenges you and pushes you to your limits of expansion. What I expected was not what I received, in the best way.

Reanna M

Before I met Natalie, I was very confused in my relationship; I was constantly plagued by intrusive thoughts about leaving/ staying, I blamed my partner for not being good enough and at the same time I felt so guilty about this. It was a relief to know that these triggers were not red flags, but opportunities for growth "in disguise". Working with Natalie has given me tools to work through my anxiety surrounding relationships and I have found these tools to be so useful in everyday life, not just my relationship - this has truly been a lifetime investment! I am learning self-trust and my partner is a huge gift for my growth; since I started this work I have gained peace, ease and presence in my relationship. I loved working with Natalie, I would recommend her to everyone I know!

Sara S